Month: October 2019

Is second chance relationship possible?The irony for most couples is that they only find value and worth in the relationship when it’s all gone. Breaking up doesn’t mean it’s really the final end of the relationship, but a time to breath and be back again for good. More so, second chance is no longer possible if and when you have really moved on to different paths after the separation.
We have heard a lot from people taking chances for love to grow again.Maybe you ask, how can chances be possible?As you get back into the relationship once more, do not expect the new relationship to be totally perfect.Time to time, there will be challenges that will break you, but what you have learned from the first can help you cope with the present problem. On the other note, second chance should be understood that love is desired not because its the solution to the problem of break up, nor you fear that you can never find another romance as wonderful and sweet as yours. The true meaning of second chance is being able to contribute – yourself, your love, trust and respect.

A second chance relationship is not made with quick decisions, rather you need to give yourself time to think about things.

Is it LOVE.. Again?
Before you decide such second chance, be sure of your feelings. You have to remember that love and loneliness are two opposing feelings. If you make loneliness as the reason for a second chance, better not try second chance again.Loneliness can be gone soon especially when you will start diverting your emotions. When you are caught between two feelings, you have to be honest with yourself.

What went wrong?
This is part and parcel after a break up. You really need some time to think of your situation and the relationship why it really ended that way.

Before picking up the pieces and putting it back together, you should have a real view of what both of you did wrong so that on the second time, you know what are the things you should and should not do.

LEARN.
It is normal for the relationship to face problems and conflicts. You broke up because of some reasons. No matter what the reasons were and no matter how eager you are for a second chance, you cannot simply say, “i want you and i again, let’s do it”. Learn from the past experiences in the relationship so that you will be able to apply it when second chance will happen.

Think of the bright side.
Even if it is so painful to you that the relationship ended, it is necessary that you also have to think of the positive side of the situation or what is good about the relationship. So as the second chance comes in, good qualities of the relationship will be applied again and remove all those flaws and imperfections as possible.
Be rational.
Be willing and eager to accept yourself as who you are and also your partner despite imperfections and differences. You should also need to be sensitive with your partner’s needs and as possible, try so hard to fulfill it. Couples have lots of differences and the only way to solve it is to talk about it and to be willing to give full understanding on it.

It is not all the time that a second chance romance is good for a lifetime. The persons involved must not only work for themselves, but should also work out for the relationship to last. If the couples are no longer giving and taking for the growth of the relationship, second chance failure happens. Remember, the success of the relationship will depend on how the couples meet halfway to better understand each other, to give what is due for each other and to show that they are willing to give everything for the relationship.

Distancing is for the most part has been look upon as a thing that men do all their lives and have not been seen to be with women also.

Perceptions

Focusing only on good sex is not enough as some people thought will keep the relationship together.

Having good communication is not the magic bullet either.

Because your partner is from different planet you have to accept it will be lonely is another of the myths.

Stepping away emotionally

Do you notice that you are constant being ask to help out with friends and activities outside the home?

Do you find it is difficult for you to connect to your partner when it is time for you to be intimate and you use some excuse to blame such as no time, the dog, the children, the extended family needs you?

Do you fine it difficult for you to open up emotionally when you need to put time into your relationship because you have shut down?

Give and receive

You may feel the desire to have a close relationship in which you can give and receive comfort but have difficulty in sticking with it.

You my find yourself as a giver because it comes easy to you or you may see yourself as a receiver and it is difficult to take the action to give so you wait for others to give to implicate themselves before you take that step in opening.

You may find that you demand proof that your partner love you and you may feel honor to receive this love but afraid to open and give back so you rather break up the relationship before the person hurt you or demand of you more than you are willing to give.

No time for partner

If you find yourself with no time to give to your partner because you are so busy with your children it maybe your way of distancing so you do not become too intimate this sometimes creates a gap in the relationship that is sometimes difficult to repair.

Parenting

Both parents are so taken up about parenting that they forget about making time to spend together only to realize that they have drifted apart and it is difficult for them to come back together.

Taking risk in sharing feelings

You may be afraid of emotional commitment and the vulnerability when you have to open up and share with your mate because this asks of you to risk sharing your feelings.

Letting go of being in control

If you find yourself wanting always to be in control and it comes from fear of letting go, you are not sure if you did let go things will get done.

Setting boundaries

When you take the set boundaries you give your self time to be with you.

With boundaries you respect yourself and others of how much you can and able to give.

Overcoming fears

Overcoming your fears is a process that you will go through when you decide to get help and support with loving people around you.

The first part of this healing is to learn to trust in yourself knowing that you brought you to a place within you to be awaken and to remove the blockages that you have been carrying around for a long time and has stop you to live the life you want.

Conclusion: When you or your partner distance yourself in the relationship know that it is a way for you to protect yourself and you can learn others ways to feel secure while being vulnerable.

To those who are religiously active, and or those who hold strict religious beliefs that strongly differ from your partners, you may find that your relationship can become harder to cope with later in time. Many couples usually ignore this important factor when deciding to plunge into a deeper relationship. They ignore how it might affect parental ties and their offspring. It is best to discuss individual beliefs and how they have affected the worlds around each of you from young – as religious beliefs are usually the fundamental driving forces (or guides) behind individual values and that have been developing within us since the start of our nurturing. They teach us the difference between good and evil and help us to define our deities and our place in this world.

It can be dangerous to take on the religion of your partner, just to do so, if that religion has little to offer you and takes you away from your norms and values. You would have to be willing to take on the laws of a new religion that your partner is already accustomed to. As time goes by, it could become easier for him or her to find fault in your daily activities if they differ from your partners norms. But all is not lost if you are willing and able to adjust and enjoy to the change. But do not adjust only to make your partner happy, while remain uncomfortable. You must be happy to know there is a religious system you can adapt to, enjoy, and learn from.

If you decide that your mate has strict religious beliefs that seem abnormal to you, ask lots of questions – as religions come in many forms. Beware of cults and its practices. The numbers of cult religions increase daily in the United States. Many dont last, but they can be dangerous and become burdensome to you for the rest of your life. Satanic priests and witches exist everywhere in our age, so if that is not where you want to go, you better find out who you are getting involved with.

You may not appreciate finding out that the woman you have been dating for eight months is a practicing Jehovahs Witness if you are a Christian Scientist believer. Or maybe it would not bother you that much because eventually, you assume, your partner will see it your way soon enough. It usually does not turn out that way unless you never speak of religion in the home. But even if you never mention it, your individual religious norms will reflect from thoughts to actions (behaviors and prejudices) in the home and around each other.

Although both Jehovahs Witness and Christian Scientist religions are of Christianity decent, their belief systems differ greatly. For example, Christian Scientist members believe that all reality in the universe is necessarily good because God created it. The evil, sickness, and death that men think they see in the world could not have come from God; therefore, these things are essentially unreal. Conversely, Jehovahs Witness believe that the world has evil in it and that it is real based on biblical teachings. This is why they witness door-to-door and teaching of the coming Messiah preparing people for the end.

On a surface level, two different beliefs held by a loving couple may seem insignificant, but they can be the fundamental cause of heated arguments, that over time, can lead to confusion, opposition, hate, and even divorce. So, for the sake of your offspring, get it right. Children depend on a stable nurturing that includes living-principles. A stable family is a strong family.

Modern culture has brought many wonders to our society. Perhaps the most celebrated is our ability to embrace diversity. Today, people of all races and cultural backgrounds freely share homes, neighborhoods, workplaces and classrooms. We are free to share ideas and learn more about other cultures, much more than earlier generations were able to do. As a result, we live in a much more harmonious world that’s becoming increasingly tolerant of cultural diversity.

Every couple involved in a romantic union will face challenges from time to time, but mixed race couples can encounter particularly challenging issues. Facing these challenges and finding solutions will ultimately enable the couple to make their relationship even stronger. The confidence to endure the strongest conflicts is made possible by sharing the personal strength found in each other.

When two people from different cultural backgrounds unite, they are said to have an interracial or “mixed race” relationship. If you are involved in such a relationship, your background may be very different from that of your partner. As the relationship grows, of course, you and your partner will eagerly welcome each other to explore new cultural traditions.

You will experience the excitement of learning new traditions and meeting new people. At this point, certain anxieties can develop, and this is the point at which the potential for conflict can arise. For example, meeting your partner’s family for the first time is exciting, but existing language or lifestyle barriers can leave you feeling intimidated and concerned as to whether they will accept you into the family.

Your interracial relationship is unique, and the following suggestions can help you to celebrate your union when faced with adversity:

1. Use clear and friendly communications. Try your best to communicate clearly, despite any language barrier. Your friendly tone and expressions will speak volumes. Express your happiness at meeting the people who raised your true love. Your efforts to communicate will solidify the bond between you and your partner.

2. Learn more about the other culture. Try to become more involved in your partner’s life by learning more about his or her culture and traditions. Show your interest but don’t appear to be phony or overbearing.

3. Showcase your similarities. You can always find something in common with everyone you meet, regardless of any differences in culture or ethnicity. Always remain open minded, and don’t be afraid to share your opinions and interests. You’ll likely find that you have more in common than you thought possible. Don’t let your cultural differences inhibit your ability to connect. You and your partner have proven that different races can blend together beautifully. Mixed race couples can face unique challenges, but that is no reason to give up too quickly. Every lasting relationship is worth the effort.

4. Define the kind of relationship that you want and need. If this is the union that provides everything you need, keep reminding yourself that it’s worth maintaining. Be happy and true to your partner and to yourself.

5. Stay confident in your decision to pursue an interracial relationship. You went into the partnership feeling in love and invincible. Keep the feeling alive and you will keep your relationship strong despite the opinions of others.

6. Don’t let other people’s opinions bring you down. Negative comments can be hard to deal with, especially when they come from people who are important to you. Remember that the happiness of you and your partner is all that matters.

7. Live a happy life. The onset of a new relationship is the happiest, most exhilarating time of life. Allow yourself to make plans and share dreams about the future, and don’t let other people take hold of your happiness.

8. Be content and live freely. This is the most important fact of life, even if you are not in a relationship at all. If you are involved in an interracial relationship, remember that you live in a free country and have the right to live your life as you choose. Making the decision to be with the person you love will give you all the power in the world.

9. Share your happiness those you love. Your family and friends will love your partner as well. If you feel the need to hide your relationship, then you have bigger issues that should be dealt with. Despite any cultural differences that may come in to play, the happiness of you and your partner should be your ultimate concern.

10. Follow your heart. Countless relationships have been ruined because people analyze too much and ignore what their hearts are telling them. If you truly love your partner, then go ahead and love him or her freely and without doubt. Love doesn’t give second chances, so follow your heart and take it all the way.

11. Keep the lines of communication open. Talk to your partner about what makes your relationship strong, and about your fears. This will tell your partner that he or she is loved unconditionally and it will create a closer bond between you. Encourage your partner to open up and discuss his or her feelings with hesitation.

There is no greater gift to be given, or received, than love. When you find someone truly special that you can share this magical emotion with, you can’t let anyone or anything stand in your way. Our unique qualities are what makes this world such a wonderful place to be. Prove to yourself, and to your partner, that you are truly and happily in love. The rest of the world will glow in your happiness.

When a relationship starts everything is new and fantastic, but much to our regret in most cases the relationship becomes routine unless we take steps to prevent it, we run the risk being involved in a vicious circle of apathy and boredom.

It seems ironic, but it is a reality that most couples break up for lack of creativity and imagination, lack of love and affinity.

We give some simple tips that can be effective to prevent boredom and routine in a relationship:

First, we must know that be bored and love are irreconcilable terms, so it is important to be aware of the problem and find solutions, for example, make weekend plans or leave a day a week the children with grandparents and so recover the joy and intimacy in couples.

As a second step, and perhaps the most basic, it is noted the importance of trust, if we get bored in our relationship we should be able to communicate.

The communication promotes a relaxation routine and restored enthusiasm.

Third, overcome boredom is not fun at all costs, but the ability to vary your routine based on the personal satisfaction of each partner.

Therefore, to overcome boredom in the couple the best advice is try to change reality, so that although we are engaged in a routine, sometimes forced and compelled, we are able to enjoy a positive living and full of activity.