Month: July 2019

There are a few men who prefer to have a wife led relationship. For those men it is exhilarating to have the wife be in complete control of the relationship and the dominate person. This runs the gamut from letting the wife make most of the decisions to letting her have complete control and being submissive to her. Not all of the men who want a wife led relationship like to be truly submissive but merely prefer a lesser role in the marriage.

To what degree you end up in a wife led relationship of your own choosing is based on both of your preferences. You may simply let your wife do the checkbook and handle the most major financial decisions. You will have to discuss it with your wife because it could become a burden if she really does not want the largest share of the control in the marriage.

Rather than feeling like shes lucky to have control, she might feel that you are pushing off unpleasant decisions and jobs onto her. Be sure to balance it by taking over things that she doesnt like to do. This type of marriage is wife led in the sense that she has the major amount of control, but not all of it.

A popular fantasy for many men, who dont have it, is to have a truly wife led relationship. They become quite submissive to the wife in everything. They do the chores and anything else she asks him to do. Serving their wife in this way pleases them a great deal.

The submissiveness even carries over to their sex lives. In fact, thats the big appeal for many men in having this type of relationship. They secretly want to be dominated sexually, and the rest just adds to that appeal. The psychological reason for this may vary but there certainly is no harm in it if both partners communicate what it is they want, and both agree.

In a true wife led relationship, the man knows that his wife has authority over him. He does the chores and tries to anticipate her every need. She doesnt thank him, but may tell him hes doing a good job. When it comes to sex, the man is only allowed as much pleasure as the woman feels like letting him have. Not allowing him to have an orgasm, or delaying it, is something these men find enjoyable

A relationship of this type is not for everyone, but many men feel happiest when their wife has control. And while it might sound like the woman has it made in a wife led relationship, its not always easy for her either. If a woman has been raised believing in the typical roles of husband and wife, suddenly being asked to take charge of everything can be daunting. Granted, the housework and other chores will probably be done by the man, but the handling of the big decisions, finances and other things might be a new experience.

Many women enjoy it for awhile but get tired of it. However if the man really wants that kind of life there may have to be compromises. Perhaps there can be certain days where the wife takes control but on other days the man takes control.

If you want this kind of life with your wife but arent sure how to discuss it with her, try writing your feelings and wants down, and then discuss them with her. You could also simply begin allowing her to lead the relationship gradually and later asking her if it is something she likes.

Is your confidence level where you’d like it to be?

Many relationship issues arise from a lack of confidence or low self-esteem. Low self-confidence can contribute to withdrawal, lack of intimacy and even infidelity in a relationship.

So, how can you increase your confidence? Well, self-confidence is not a commodity that can be plucked from a tree or pulled from a shelf. You see, having merit for ones self is all about self-love and that comes from within. So, in many ways achieving self confidence is a journey within.

However, there are things you can do on the surface that will help to get you on the right track. To get you moving in the right direction I’ve included the following “20 Ways to Increase your Confidence”…

1. Think about someone who is confident and act, talk and walk like him or her. Modeltheir mannerisms and behavior. It works for them; it will work for you.

2. Smile a lot more. That doesn’t mean putting a silly grin on your face! But smile when you walk down the street, when you meet people and generally be happier even if you’re not feeling that way.

3. Learn from the past; don’t beat yourself up about it. It’s gone; it’s never coming back. Instead learn from it for next time.

4. Buy yourself some new clothes, get your hair done, and treat yourself to something new. It will make you feel better and will give your ego a boost.

5. Are you prepared for situations? Are you prepared enough to meet any challenge that may come up? Are you prepared for that meeting, that presentation, that job interview, when you meet someone for the first time? If not, get to it.

6. Play to your strengths. Know what you are good at and expose yourself to these opportunities at every opportunity – because you’re good at it, you’ll enjoy it and have more confidence.

7. Improve your weaknesses. Know and appreciate what these are and put a plan in place to improve them over time.

8. Learn how to say no to people. Don’t be afraid, you’ve got nothing to be afraid of. Just watch the reaction on their face after you’ve said it the first time and there will be no going back.

9. Be positive. Look on the “can do” side of things rather than the “can’t do”. You’ve accomplished lots in your life and you will accomplish lots more in the future.

10. Be in charge of your thoughts at all times. What is a thought? It’s just a question that you’ve asked yourself and the thought is you’re answer. If you’re thinking negative thoughts, you’re probably asking a negative question. Change the questions to be more positive.

11. Whenever you feel a negative thought coming, STOP, THINK, and say is this really important in the grand scheme of things. A lot of the time it isn’t. Many people in life major in minor things!

12. Do you let the words of others affect you? Do you mind what they think of you? Remember that no one can make you feel inferior without your consent. It’s not what they say to you that’s the problem it’s what you say to yourself after they have stopped talking that’s the problem. Change the way you think.

13. List the words that you use on a consistent basis when you feel let down or annoyed. People use different words to mean the same thing and depending upon the intensity of the word – this will have an effect on your confidence. Instead of saying “I’m enraged about this” say, “I’m a little annoyed”. Make a substitute list for the words that you use. Make sure they are lower in intensity and then use them. You’ll be surprised with the results.

14. At the end of each day list your achievements and successes throughout that day.

15. Be appreciative of what you have to be thankful for in your life right now. Who do you love? Who loves you? Who do you help out?

16. Every morning when you’re in the shower, play over in your head the events in the day as though they have already happened and they were a success. Visualize all of the meetings that you had, the people you talked to, the outcomes you had. Visualize success and confidence and it will be so.

17. Improve your body language. The way that you move your body has a massive impact on your confidence levels. Move your body assertively and walk with your head up, shoulders back and as though you’ve got somewhere very important to go. Feeling low in confidence? Change you body language.

18. Emotion is created by motion. As in 17, make sure you move around consistently. This creates energy and gets the blood pumping around you body – it makes you feel better and more confident.

19. Learn to brag about yourself. Yes, you heard me! Talk about your achievements and successes more than you currently are.

20. And finally – You only live once, so any time that you are down just ask yourself in 10 or 20 years time – will what I am worrying about really matter?

Could you use some tips for your troubled relationship? Are you interested in putting the relationship back together?

Help tip number 1: Plan a date together. Choose a restaurant where both would like to go, and you can have a chat there. Most people wont argue in public, so your time together is likely to be pleasant and fun.

This help tip for your troubled relationship makes sense because sometimes a little work and a private chat might be the thing that changes your relationship. Life gets so busy and hectic that sometimes you lose track of your loved ones. The ones who mean the most to you can sometimes feel neglected. Your taking the time to go on a date where real attention is given to your partner could be all the help your relationship needs.

Relationship help tip number 2: If you feel you and your partner cant talk alone, ask a mutual friend or a family member to act as mediator. You must be really careful in whom you select. You dont want someone to mediate who is on your side and cant act impartially. You want someone who can be objective, and one who truly wants to see the both of you get back together.

Try to find a mediator who has known both of you for a long time. That way the person can feel free to discuss openly with both of you without either party becoming defensive. Most every relationship has someone who fits the description of this mediator. The person who works best is someone who has the liberty of coming to your house whenever he/she wants to. Both you and your partner have good rapport with this person, and both you and your partner can talk openly with him/her.

Relationship help tip number 3: You and your partner must be able to talk openly about your relationship. You may have to agree to disagree without becoming disagreeable. Thats why the mediator you choose in help tip 2 must be able to help you and your partner be open and honest with each other without the conversation turning into a shouting match. The mediator can establish the ground rules for your meeting before either partner decides on the date.

Relationship help tip number 4: If you cant find the right person to help mediate your discussions from friends or family, you will probably need to find a relationship counselor. There are many couple counseling services available, but one you might consider using is a local pastor.

You are not looking for a marriage counselor, but a counselor for couples. There are many around, and a local pastor would be a good place to start especially if you live in a rural area. There are several reasons to choose a local pastor: 1, in most cases they are easy to talk with. They must be people oriented. 2. they can offer good sound advice to help you and your partner deal with your relationship. 3. a local pastor wants you to succeed. He could get to marry you, get you to come to his church or even become a new friend to both of you. 4. a local pastor is usually inexpensive. 5. a local pastor is easy to find for help. Both of you can learn to trust him. You both must be able to trust the one who is trying to put your relationship back together.

Relationship help tip number 5: If both parties in the relationship are amenable and can learn to sit down and talk to each other. The relationship can be fixed. It may take more than a few days or dates to fix it, but the relationship is a doable one.

Above are 5 tips to help save your troubled relationship before you give up on it. Both parties must agree to meet and discuss openly the things that each feel have gone wrong. Life hits you hard sometimes and it gets in the way of your having a good relationship. Learn the secrets to a great relationship before it is too late for you to save a beautiful one with a partner you want.

There are many relationships out there that are not healthy for either person. Some people stay together just out of habit and it seems easier than getting into an ugly emotional battle. Some stay together out of misguided love for a person who will never be right for him or her. Some couples stay together because he or she thinks the other is going to change. No matter what the seemingly positive reason for staying in a negative relationship is, the best thing to do for a negative relationship for both parties is to move on from each other. Reasons for leaving a bad relationship include getting out for emotional health, physical health, and to get on with your life.

The first reason to get out of a bad relationship is for the emotional health and well-being of both parties. Staying in a bad relationship is often delaying the inevitable. Waiting longer most likely will only cause more pain. Staying in a doomed relationship for any more time only gives the time to have more confrontations, arguments, and harsh feelings toward each other. Many times, getting out of a relationship can be done amicably, but beating a dead horse, so to speak, is not healthy for either person in the couple. Getting out at the right time can save the emotional health of both parts of the relationship.

Another reason to get out of a bad relationship is to make sure that the emotions and arguments that often exist in such a relationship does not escalate to physical violence by either party. Many times, anger, mistrust, and other powerful negative emotions cause serious problems and these emotions can lead to physical confrontations. This is something that needs to be avoided completely. Usually before something physical happens, there are signs that it will get close to this type of occurrence. Someone may raise a hand, some may get into the face of the other person, there will be some sort of loss of control. Before this turns into physical violence from either party in the relationship, and its not ok for either party to be violent, the relationship should be stopped.

One final reason to put a bad relationship to rest is to move on with separate lives. This is often what is needed for both people to be both emotionally and physically well. Moving on separately is indeed a sad thing to have to do, but if it is the only way both parties of the relationship will be both healthy and happy. Maybe the answer isnt to be split permanently. Maybe only a break is needed. But whether the split is temporary or permanent, a split is sometimes necessary to ensure tranquility for the couple.

In many cases, couples stay together for many reasons. No matter what the reason to stay together, there are a number of reasons to get out of the relationship and to move on from something that is clearly not working. Pull the Band-Aid off quickly rather than slowly. Pulling the Band-Aid off quickly may be a burst of pain, but pulling it off slowly only prolongs the pain.

Don’t you wish you were much wiser when it came to the opposite sex? How much better would your life be, if you were clued up on the opposite sex, knew what was upsetting them when they have mood swings, and could brighten up their day in a second?

Yep, we all want that. We all want to understand how relationships work, to try and make our lives and that of our partners pleasurable. We dream of a happy, pain-free relationship, where the good times far outweigh the unhappy times and where we will live happily ever after.

But that’s not everything you need to realize. There is another vital skill required for any coupling to work, and that’s tolerance. You should remember that no one person is faultless, we all have our bad points (though hopefully the good points outweigh these), and these will have to be tolerated.

So for a woman attempting to gain relationship wisdom, she has to learn what men look for in a woman. For men, they have to discover what it is that women want.

You have your bad points and your lover has theirs. What’s more, neither of you are as wise as you think. You won’t always be right, all of the time, although you like to think so. Instead, the thing here is to identify your partner’s less than positive traits, understand them for what they are, and learn to live with them. This is what love is about.

Now the problem is, men and women behave very differently. Males and females have their own weird emotions, wants and needs that are unique to their sex. As well, we also possess many of the same wants, but it’s the unshared needs that can make problems.

To do this, you need relationship wisdom. To get relationship wisdom, you need to understand how humans think.

An additional key quality you need to last in your relationship and make it a happy one is diplomacy. Relationships are all about give and take. You cannot always have what you want all of the time, and nor can your partner. Sometimes, you have to let them go wherever they want to go, even if it means you tagging along with them when you don’t want to. You should let them ‘win’ the occasional debate, even if you think they are wrong. Diplomacy is essential for any relationship to bear fruit.

Finally, if you want further relationship wisdom, the best place to get it is in, believe it or not, the media. You can read magazines, newspapers etc., nearly all of them will have an agony aunt as well as a love section where people come to ask for advice. Reading these columns can really improve your relationship wisdom.