Month: May 2019

Being active makes a person healthy and strong. It is not just for people who have a weight problem but for everyone who likes to stay fit.

There is a lot a person can do such jog or walk every morning, play basketball or any other sport with friends but if a person wants to have muscles and look lean, then one can sign up and workout in a gym.

People workout for 3 reasons;

The first is that the person is overweight and the only way to lose those extra pounds will be to reduce ones calorie intake and at the same time workout in the gym.

The second is that the person is underweight and the only way to add extra pounds is to have more calories in ones diet and workout.

The third is just for fun and to keep that person in shape.

The best exercise plan should have cardiovascular and weight training exercises. This helps burn calories and increase the muscle to fat ratio that will increase ones metabolism and gain or lose weight.

Just like taking any medicine, one should first consult the doctor before undergoing any form of exercise.

Here are some benefits of exercising;

1.It is the easiest way to maintain and improve ones health from a variety of diseases and premature death.

2.Studies have shown that it makes a person feels happier and increases ones self esteem preventing one from falling into depression or anxiety.

3.An active lifestyle makes a person live longer than a person who doesn’t.

Working out for someone who has not done it before should be done gradually. Endurance will not be built in a day and doing it repeatedly will surely be beneficial to the person.

It is advisable to workout regularly with a reasonable diet.

A person can consult with a dietitian or a health professional to really help plan a good diet program. It starts by evaluating the lifestyle and the health of the patient before any program can be made.

Afterwards, this is thoroughly discussed and recommended to the person which usually consists of an eating plan and an exercise program that does not require the use of supplements or one to purchase any expensive fitness equipment.

A good diet should have food from all the food groups.

This is made up by 2 things. The first is carbohydrates. The food that a person consumes should have vitamins, minerals and fiber. A lot of this can come from oats, rice, potatoes and cereals. The best still come from vegetables and fruits since these have phytochemicals, enzymes and micronutrients that are essential for a healthy diet.

The second is fat which can come from mono and poly saturated food sources rather than animal fats. Since fat contains more than double the number of calories in food, this should be taken in small quantities to gain or lose weight.

Another way to stay healthy is to give up some vices. Most people smoke and drink. Smoking has been proven to cause lung cancer and other diseases as well complications for women giving birth. Excessive drinking has also shown to do the same.

For people who don’t smoke, it is best to stay away from people who do since studies have shown that nonsmokers are also at risk of developing cancer due to secondary smoke inhalation.

If you are like me, youve found yourself standing in the aftermath of a firestorm called a fight. You feel burned, damaged. Bitterness has taken root. Your heart, once open, is now closedprotected behind armor so you cant be hurt again. Although you bury the pain, it smolders like a burning ember and pollutes your love or marriage relationship forever. Or you split up.

Personally, it wasnt until I got a bit older and looked at my bone yard of broken love relationships that I realized how important the issue of fair fighting is. There is nothing more important than how you fight or express your upset. How you handle conflicts can determine the course of your entire love or marriage relationship. It influences whether or not you are perceived as trustworthy and a safe person with whom to disagree.

In my practice as a therapist I have witnessed a veritable wasteland of love relationships, countless marriage relationships lost or damaged because people didnt know how to fight fair. The result was unhappy homes, bitter divorces, and countless tears and frustration.

Here is a list of 10 Love, Marriage Relationship MUSTS for fair fighting. These rules are important and may require practice. In the heat of the moment, they may seem difficult to apply. You and your mate will succeed if you have the honest intention to clean up your relationship, because you can always go back and talk later when you are calmer and in a better space.

1.If you feel a slow burn, STOP! Often when you get mad it feels like an eruption. You feel a rush of anger or rage that sweeps your entire body and mind. It may feel like you lose your train of thought or you forget what you want to say. You want to explode at the other person. Stop! Its not the right time to talk.

2.Remember this is not your enemy. Right now, your survival system sees your beloved as a threat, the enemy, and a source of pain. Only survival counts. So you may feel inclined to say anything, fight with all your might, win at all costs. Its a big mistake!

3.Avoid mental/emotional associations with your love or marriage relationship that dont serve you. When you get upset you are activated. Your survival system has begun making associations, or links, between your beloved and those who hurt you in the past. An inner voice may be saying things like: This is what all women do. Or: This is what my Dad used to do, and I dont want to be in a relationship with my dad.

4.Take a time out. Ask: Am I too upset to resolve this right now? If the answer is yes, you need a break and some distance. Notice, I didnt say storm out. I didnt say, slam the door, bolt to your car, and burn rubber as you speed away. Keep your head and say, I am too upset to talk about this right now. I need a break and to get out of here for a little while. Lets talk later. Sometimes tiny skirmishes dissipate naturally. If you feel the anger dissipate naturally, let it go.

5.Stay on the topic at hand. Emotional vomiting is off limits. This is not an opportunity to unload all the upsets you have not been holding in. Let some things go. If you use this as a dumping ground you will start a painful fighting cycle with no end.

6.Let your partner save face. If you are fighting over whos right and whos wrong, you will both lose. In one couples counseling session, the woman kept correcting the mans memory of the facts. Then she complained about how mean he was getting when he asserted his memory. She didnt see that he needed room to save face and feel like he was right, too. She needed to drop the facts. Ask yourself, Do I want a harmonious love relationship or to be right?

7.Both partners must get a full turn. To start say: OK, lets take turns. You go first and I will listen, and then let you know what I have heard you say. When you are done, it will be my turn to speak. If he says, I am angry that you leave the counter dirty, say, What I hear you saying is that it makes you mad. Then you can ask, Why does this make you angry? How else does that make you feel? When you have heard your partners point of you, it will be your turn to talk about your feelings. Make a sincere effort to fix upset areas.

8.Try to stand in your partners shoes and see the world from his/her point of view. Wanting to understand does not mean you are giving in or being weak. It means your love or marriage relationship comes first. You want to the bottom of the conflict so you can resolve it. Being understood is the number one diffusion technique in any conflict. It can prevent years of marriage counseling. You can say, What I hear you saying is Drop your pride and be willing to say that you apologize even if you dont think you did anything wrong. Intentions are not always interpreted as they were meant. You say, I am sorry, I do see how it could have come across that way. Only then will they be open to hear your point of view.

9.Offer a heart-felt apology. It doesnt matter that you didnt intend to do anything wrong if the other person in your marriage or love relationship feels offended. You can say, I am sorry. I do apologize for that. I can see your point of view and imagine how that would feel.

10.Do not under any circumstances call names. When you call your love a bitch, bastard, whore, asshole, idiot, stupid, and so on, you are being abusive. You may win the current battle but your marriage or romance will suffer. Dont be surprised if you need marriage counseling or your love relationship suffers.

Keep in mind, both of you have a right to feel the way you do. What counts is being heard and understood. You friendship, love or marital relationship can grow, deepen and be a place of safety, love and expansion when you follow these simple rules.

Most people experience a stage in the beginning of their relationships which is commonly referred to as the “honeymoon” stage; often during this phase of your relationship arguments will be rare and mild while both individuals are experiencing an overwhelming sense of joy.

Understanding how this early stage of the relationship affects you and your partner can be of great assistance when trying to determine causes of your arguments. Some of the most common signs of this phase are:

*More playful than usual

*Tendency to hum or sing to oneself

*More patient and/or tolerant than usual

*Gravitating toward anything having to do with romance or romantic situations

*Constant physical affection with partner

*Increased anxiety when separated from partner/ not wanting to be apart

*Frequently including topics related to, or about, your partner when having discussions with others

*Tendency to day dream about partner

*More giving than usual

*Constant attentiveness to physical appearance

*Increased sexual activity with partner

During this almost euphoric phase of the relationship you and your partner may experience a change in your normal behavioral patterns. This is not to say that your feelings and actions during this stage aren’t genuine, but perhaps more frequently leaning in a positive direction. It is the common practice of couples in this phase to ignore each others’ bad habits; act in an exceptionally understanding way when encountering difficulties and in general, to set aside differences for a later time.

While there is little doubt that this experience will provide you and your partner with a much needed stage of development in your relationship it can be disappointing when it begins to fade. The feelings of love between you and your partner may not lessen as you enter a more down to earth stage of the relationship, but at times it may as though that is exactly what is happening.

Understanding that while in the earlier stages of your relationship you more than likely tended to avoid conflict with your sweetheart may help you to understand that when that phase is over it isn’t that the relationship is diminishing, but that a balance of fantasy and reality is being breathed back in.

Romance can be a wonderful addition to any relationship regardless of the duration; however it tends to be more frequently found in newer relationships. This may be due to the fact that most couples have yet to see each other at their worst; to have become bored with traits that were once exciting or simply have yet to discover those little annoying habits that may one day be so apparent. Making a point of maintaining the balance between what was once intoxicating about your partner and what may become a point of stress is good way to keep your relationship healthy in the long run.

Expecting perfection from any partner is often a mistake, even if that idea is simply an image of how they appeared to you in earlier stages. However, allowing yourself to accept that once past that stage the romance will never return can present equally frustrating problems.

For all of these reasons many couples are often shocked and frightened by their first big blow out. Panic and insecurity often play huge roles in elevating the importance of the argument, which is often over something small. It is important to remember that because it is still early in the relationship you and your partner may both still be feeling some doubt about each others’ feelings. This reluctance to trust can cause a strain when the bond between you is threatened, or perceived to be threatened. The result? That defenses will run high because you may not yet be acting as a team, rather than two singles.

It is perhaps because the initial stages of a relationship can feel so particularly blissful and unreal that trust is still not secured once the stage comes to a close. Often people fear that a more serious phase of the relationship will bring about only stress and obligation and that remaining will only lead to their love ending up in ruins.

For those couples who try to maintain a balance in their relationships this dire outcome is often far from the truth. Arguments that are handled with respect and care are usually resolved with ease, but it may remain forever important to expect that your partner may not agree with you about certain issues.

In many cases the more passionate a relationship,
the more devastating the argument. This may be true of your first fight and because of that same passion it may seem as though a small issue has become a giant monster. The ability to change perspectives is not easily acquired, but may almost be considered a necessity for any successful relationship. This is true not only of the way you see the world from another person’s point of view, but your own with changing emotions and moods.

Though the first real argument a couple experiences can stem from a wide variety of causes, many of the underlying feelings responsible are similar. Because this is commonly the case, there e are some steps that you can take during the argument to help keep the hurt feelings on both sides to a minimum:

*Pay attention to your facial expressions; rolling your eyes or glaring may not be easily controlled, but a simple look can change the next words chosen by your partner.

*Keeping your voice to a reasonable level can help keep the argument well under control; when decibels are raised the tension is often not far behind.

*Try not to swear or call your partner names; this can be particularly difficult when you are very angry, but while you will almost certainly hurt your partner’s feelings it will be unlikely for you to experience any relief from this simple action… unless of course it causes you both to burst into fits of laughter.

*Allow your partner to finish speaking; many people become angry to a point of no return when they feel that they are never allowed to make their point.

*Listen and try to understand what your partner is telling you; distance yourself from your personal opinion just long enough to see the argument from your partner’s side.

*Do not shoot down your partner’s ideas; you do not have to agree with your partner, but you must not act as if their opinion means nothing.

*Above all, remember that this person with whom you are so angry is not the enemy, but a dear friend. Treat your partner with the respect and support that you would hope to receive from them in return.

Many people experience mixed feelings about their first real argument as a couple. Some of these might be that you feel uncertain of the level of resolution and worried about the same issues cropping up again. This kind of concern is normal, but will probably lessen with time as you learn to better communicate with your sweetheart.

Remember also that arguing if done correctly can help to bring you closer together as a couple; that the majority of successful couples do have disagreements and perhaps best of all, making up with the one you love can be an amazing experience. You will probably argue again with your partner, feel angry with and feel driven crazy by them, but you will also grow together and in most cases be the better and happier for it.

One of the best characteristics of American Singles is that they are proactive in seeking love and relationship. In stead of sitting in a corner to wait for someone to come, American single women and men take action by going online to look for dates. Some of them dress up and go to the clubs to meet singles and some are lazy to stay home and look for dates online. In other words, American singles don’t stop seeking love until they found the perfect match. It does not matter what age they are, they still go online to seek someone who can share with them the joys in life. In fact, American people prefer a positive life with joys and happiness. They enjoy their life with positive look and view.

When looking for dates online, some American singles prefer the free dating sites because such websites have thousands or even millions of singles who joined and some prefer the paid dating sites. Either one will have the only one purpose; that is; to help singles meet each other online. Paid dating services charge a small monthly fee like $20 and free dating sites don’t charge any money. When they register their personals ads at free dating websites, American singles don’t pay anything for using the service. There is no hidden cost. They don’t have to enter their credit card information at all. What they do is to create a personal profile and wait until they get approved and start searching and interacting with other American singles in their area.

Today American singles don’t tend to go to the local bar, club, or coffee shop to meet a life partner, they prefer the online dating services to find the second half. One of the primary reason is that singles in America are too busy with their daily schedule. They work full-time and take care of their children so they don’t have time to go out in search for dates. So, this modern century with the advanced Internet technology helps singles online find love and relationship conveniently. Generally speaking, meeting single American women and men online is an ideal way these days. It is just too hard to find a single American woman or man in a coffee shop. It is worth trying but you have a hard time to find one. American singles just stay home and open their computers to search for dates online.

It does not matter that age range you fall into, the Internet dating service is the ideal way to join. There are senior American singles and young singles who join free dating sites to find love and relationship online. Online dating service is the best way to find like-minded singles in your area or long distance. When searching for dates online, you have the chance to read each profile before you decide to contact that person or not. Unlike you meet an American single in a coffee shop or at a club, you don’t know anything about him or her, only the out look. Online dating provides the chance you can read all details about each person, including location, age, likes, dislikes, interests, hobbies, entertainment, etc.

We just list some reasons why single American Singles prefer to choose Free Dating Sites to find dates online these days. Good luck!

Long distance relationship is difficult but not undoable, and here are some tips as to how to make it work:

1. Have a common goal.
You and your lover are not going to be in a long distance relationship forever. Sooner or later, you will settle down, so plan for your future together. When will both of you settle down? How long will you both be separated? These are questions that must be answered even if you are both living in different cities to ensure that both are you are working towards the same direction.

2. Set rules.
Rules are required to avoid unnecessary arguments. Both of you need to know the dos and donts: can you date someone else or are you two exclusive? Is it okay for you to go for a drink with that hot girl in your office? Is it okay for her to go clubbing in that body hugging low cut dress that will make every guy drool? Set the expectations straight.

3. See it as an opportunity.
Simply put, be positive about it. Remember the law of attraction. If you are constantly thinking to yourself, “long distance relationship will not work”, then chances are you are right: it wont work. Believe in yourself and your partner. Open your mind and your heart and see it as a journey.

4. Do similar things.
Read the same books, watch the same movies and listen to the same songs so you have more things to talk about. You can even watch Game of Thrones together while being on Skype video call and enjoy your girlfriends reactions to the bloody scenes.

And the next time you try to be funny by going “Hodor, Hodor, Hodor” in the middle of a video chat, shell laugh.

5. Communicate regularly, and creatively.
“Good morning” and “good night” texts are mandatory; so are regular “I miss you” and “I love you” but no matter how sweet these messages are, if these are the only messages you send, your other half is bound to get bored. Be creative. Surprise her with an audio clip of “I love you” in Japanese (“Aishiteru”), a video of you singing “Cant Take My Eyes Off You” or a picture of you blowing a kiss in the direction of the camera.

6. Know each others schedules.
Keep each other updated of your schedule. You dont want to call her when she is in the midst of a meeting and you wont want to be disturbed with a call when youre sleeping. Always bear in mind of the different time zone if you two are living in different countries, and take note of important dates like exams, presentations and meetings.

7. Social media helps.
Stalk your significant other. Like each others Instagram photos. Reply each others Tweet. Comment on each others blog posts. Share funny videos on each others Facebook wall. Little things like this show that you care.

8. Give each other a personal object.
Give her your favorite Batman figurine. Ask for her Teddy Bear. None of us have a perfect memory and thats where memento comes in. It helps us remember and helps us survive tough times. When your girlfriend is depressed because of her work yet cannot contact you due to different time zone, she might look at your Batman figurine and laugh as she recalls how you mimic Batmans voice.

9. Snail-mail
Postcards and love letters please, gentleman. Its old school but its never out of fashion, and girls of all times love it. Send gifts – Birthday, Valentine, Christmas, anniversary, and any other festive season that you can think of. It can be something as normal as perfume, or naughty gifts like sexy lingerie, if you are trying to drop her a subtle hint that you cant wait to settle down.

Okay, maybe not that subtle.