Month: April 2018

If you tend to have anxiety over little things that turn out to be nothing in the end then you may dealing with a lot of little toxic thoughts that could potentially ruin your relationship.

Toxic thoughts are irrational thoughts that spill over into your imagination and become untrue stories in your head that you eventually start to believe. The initial thought is enough to have you concoct a wild story in your head that has the potential to cause fights and rifts in the relationship.

Examples of those initial toxic thoughts are:

– Is she cheating on me with that guy?
– Why did he really come home late?
– Why didnt she say I love you today?
– Why did he give me that look?
– Shes going to leave me because I said no!

These random thoughts with no real substance behind them come from negative past experiences, low self-esteem, and negative issues that havent been resolved.

Once they take seed into your imagination you can literally start to feel out of control, so you try to prove that you are right by finding evidence or gathering more visual clues from your partner that really doesnt have any merit or substance to it, but helps your case in your mind.

For example if your partner works late one night and you wonder whether they were really at someones house then you may start to question why they took a shower when they got home or why they went straight to bed when they got home or any number of things that might point to them being at someone elses house. Of course they probably took a shower to get clean and went to bed from exhaustion but your mind has already begun its own story that doesnt accept those real answers as truth.

The problem is that you can keep on trying to convince yourself you are right when there is nothing really to prove right! This can cause you to act irrational and do and say things that are uncalled for, and that can lead to fights and over time breakup or divorce.

So if you are prone to toxic and irrational thoughts then your mission should be to get rid of the toxic thoughts and instead trust in your partner and what they say and do, unless they give you a real sign that theres something to not trust. Toxic thoughts are a waste of time, make you feel bad, and use up time in your life that could be better spent.

Removing these thoughts can take practice though. Especially if you are always on guard and ready for a disaster in your relationship. You need to start by replacing your negative thoughts with positive ones. Your thoughts directly affect your feelings so if you want to feel as though you trust your partner you have to think as though you trust your partner.

Just being aware that your thoughts are toxic and irrational will help you to get rid of them. When you recognize that a thought is toxic dont try to fight it. Instead replace it with a more appropriate and positive thought.

For instance, when your partner comes home late from work and tells you they had to work late your mind may start to wonder where they really were. Instead of allowing your imagination to continue picturing where you think they were, try picturing them at work and think about the hard work that they put in for the day. This will allow you to see them at work instead of someones house and will help you feel better about the situation.

Replacing your toxic thoughts with more appropriate and positive thoughts will start you off in getting rid of those toxic thoughts for good. After that you should work on your self-esteem and confidence level by reading self-help books or talking to a therapist. The only way you can change the way you think is to take action and learn new ways to think. Your self-confidence and self-esteem will improve dramatically with each new belief you acquire.

Whatever action you decide to take, do not allow yourself to continue living with toxic thoughts about your relationship. True happiness in a relationship comes from trust and living in the moment. Allow yourself to see your relationship for what it really is at all times and work on issues as they arise, but do not make up issues in your mind because you will, in the end, create exactly what you are trying to avoid.

Many people in their adult lives have experienced a break up at one point or another. In case you have passed through this and your ex has gotten into a rebound relationship, you do not have to lose hope. There are a number of things that can help you to take advantage of the situation and get your ex back.

What does a rebound relationship mean? This is basically the type of relationship that your ex gets into, not necessarily due to love, but more as a way of trying to forget you. In essence, it is a method that your ex may use to try to avoid the pain associated with a break-up.

It is exactly for this reason that you can make use of a rebound relationship to your advantage. It means that your ex has genuine feelings for you, and this is the method of trying to get over the hurt. So, whatever it is that caused your break-up, and irrespective of who called off your relationship, you can get your ex back by using a rebound relationship to your advantage.

What you need to understand is that so long as there was true love between you, you can still rescue your relationship. Your ex will concentrate on the problem that caused your break-up while in the rebound relationship. This means that your ex will go out with someone whose characteristics are almost opposite to yours.

There are basically two main reasons why this will work to your own advantage. First of all, since your ex is trying to find someone who is different from you, it means that you are still in mind in the first place. The other thing is that this will provide you with the chance to determine what your ex is really longing for. So, while your ex is going out with the person whose qualities are contrary to yours, you should use the time to enhance your own qualities.

You should not try to get between your ex and the new friend. Just let time reveal the faults of the new friend to your ex. It will make your ex begin to appreciate your good qualities. When your ex begins to miss you, and that is when getting back together will mean a lot to you both.

Let your ex come back to you. When this happens, do not try to play hard to get. Welcome your ex back without apologies or accusations. In case you were in the wrong, say you were sorry and then proceed to other matters. Just don’t try to justify your mistake. Instead, let your ex see your improved qualities without you giving any promises to change.

When your ex moves into a relationship just after breaking up with you, this is a rebound relationship. Take advantage of the relationship and get your ex back.

You need to work towards rebounding your relationship in order to get your ex spouse, ex boyfriend or girlfriend back

If you have broken up with the love of your life and she is in a rebound relationship, how do you get her back?

A rebound relationship is one where she is dating someone else to get over you. Rebound relationships keep people from having to deal with the emotions of breaking up. They’re used to help people move on from a real love.

And that’s the key to getting your ex back. She’s in a rebound relationship to deal with losing you.

It does not matter why she lost you. It doesn’t matter if it is your fault or hers. It doesn’t even matter who actually called the relationship off. What matters is that you have a real love.

Because virtually all relationships founded on real love can be saved.

If she’s in a rebound relationship, she will be focusing on what is wrong with your relationship. If you were a “good guy” she’ll probably be hanging out with a “bad boy.” If you were into philosophy, he’ll be watching Monday Night Football. Or, vice versa.

The fact that she is actually focusing on the differences in your styles is actually good for you for two reasons. Her attention is still focused on you even when she’s with the new guy. And, it gives you a chance to see what she’s looking for.

If she’s with someone as different from you as possible, it means that she was missing something in your relationship. You can use the time she’s with rebound man to improve yourself.

Let the rebound relationship run its course. Because, as she spends time with the new guy, she will start to see the flaws in him. After a month or so with rebound man, you’ll start to look pretty good.

That’s why you don’t want to crawl back to her right away. Let her develop the idea that she misses the good things in the relationship. When she’s ready to make a move, be magnanimous. Welcome her back graciously. Be a new and improved boyfriend, but don’t do the chasing.

Here are some specific steps to take when your ex is in a rebound relationship:

* Don’t try to convince her that you are the love of her life. Let her discover this on her own.

* Don’t apologize profusely. If you did something wrong, you can say you’re sorry. Once. But move on. She knows the real reason she loves you.

* Don’t make promises to change. You are who you are and that’s who she fell in love with.

* Don’t try to make her see that it wasn’t your fault. She will come to appreciate that over time – but only if you haven’t made her invest energy in defending her position that it was your fault.

* Never, ever beg her to take you back.

When you ex starts going out with someone just after you break up, she’s in a rebound relationship. You can make up with her and get back together. Don’t despair. The rebound relationship is a sign that she’s still in love with you.

Who else is looking for relationship help? Are you struggling to figure out what your partner is thinking? Not sure if you are even WITH the right person at all? Do you desperately crave answers when it comes to FINALLY being sure you’ve found, or on the path to find the love of your life? If you said YES….to any of the above, the simple truth is that you are NOT alone! As a matter of fact, out of the anticipated 1 MILLION psychic readings that will be done in 2010 by telephone alone, well over half of them are expected to be readings done for love, lust and romance. Care to learn more? Continue reading as we take a closer look immediately below!

What is a psychic love doctor?

Honestly? In my view, it’s a pretty inaccurate nametag. A good psychic intuitive who specializes in emotional energy, auras and relationship repair is often looked at as a “doctor”, when in effect, they are really only using their natural gift of insight, emotional empathy and highly refined psychic sensitivity to convey to you what they see. Often the very best readers are normal people in EVERY other way….except for this one profound gift that’s hard to explain away!

Are all relationship psychics equally as good?

Absolutely NOT, no. The truth? I’ve had lots of different readings with a whole host of psychics at completely DIFFERENT skill level, and the resulting reading is often incredibly different as a result. My honest opinion? Never get a free reading UNLESS it’s a family friend or someone you know personally is good. My experiences have almost ALWAYS been bad, and most of those of my readers has been reported to equally disappointing.

Is there a RULE for picking the right sort of love or relationship psychic? If so….what is it?

Yes….continuity is key. Never get a reading from a fly by night, here today, gone tomorrow sort of psychic. Look for 5 years, or more of history. Look for good reviews, good customer service and stellar guarantees. (money back or better is my personal preference)

The Bottom Line?

A good love reading with a genuine psychic relationship “doctor” is one of the BEST gifts you can give yourself….AND your relationship! But pick carefully….and only choose reputable readers you expect are the real deal. Once that is out of the way…sit back and LISTEN closely! It may be the EXACT advice you need to find the one that’s right for you….OR to fix the one you’ve already found..

Here they are – some loving actions to take when first exploring a new relationship:

1. Stay focused inside your own body, noticing your own feelings rather than just being tuned into the other person’s feelings. Stay conscious of NOT taking responsibility for the others person’s feelings of worth or security, and NOT making the other person responsible for your feelings of worth or security.

2. Make a solid decision before getting together with the other person that you are willing to lose the other person rather than lose yourself. Make a conscious decision to NOT make the other person’s wants, needs and feelings more important than your own.

3. Stay clear on your own truth, NOT letting the other person talk you in or out of what feels good and right for you.

4. Be willing to take full, 100% responsibility for behaving in a way that makes you feel worthy, safe and powerful. Be willing to be who you really are rather than trying to impress. Make a conscious decision that being in integrity with who you really are, is more important than getting the other person’s approval.

5. Do NOT disregard the big or small things that you find difficult, intolerable or unacceptable. If something is unacceptable or intolerable to you early in the relationship, the chances are that it is not going to get better. Do NOT convince yourself that, because there are so many good things about this person, you can overlook the problems or get the other person to change. This NEVER works!

Fears of rejection can emerge very early in a relationship. Some people are terrified of doing something wrong and being rejected, because they make they other person responsible for their feelings of worth and lovability. The fear of rejection can lead a person to give him/herself up to the other person, thereby touching off fears of engulfment – of loving oneself and being controlled or consumed by the other person. Thus, fears of loss – loss of self or loss of other – often surface quickly and people find themselves either giving in or pulling away in their efforts to protect themselves from their fears.

If you allow fear to guide you, you will likely either pull away or end up in an unsatisfying relationship. The most important thing to remember as you move into exploring a new relationship is: LET LOVE BE YOUR GUIDE, NOT FEAR. This means that you need to be open to learning about what is most loving to YOU – what is really in your highest good – rather than trying to have control over not being rejected or controlled by the other person. So, number six is:

6. Keep asking your inner wisdom, -What is the loving action toward myself right now? What is in my highest good right now?-

If you keep asking this vital question, you will find your way through exploring a new relationship without losing yourself and without getting hurt by the other person.